An overview of my Diary

by phoxis

From childhood I had a fascination to maintain a diary. I tried to maintain a diary, as far as I remember, when I was in some class 3 or 4, at the age 8 – 9 . I tried writing diary both in English and in Bengali (my mother tongue), but failed to continue, as I did not have anything to write or may be because it was forced and didn’t came from inside. It was not before class 8 at age 13, I started maintaining a diary in a proper way. The first year of diary writing does not have much entries, but as time went on it was going scheduled. At present I have 5 diaries spanning 10 years of history starting at 9th May 2003, the first entry, and till today it has 625 entries, spanning 5 diaries, ending at 1th April 2013 counting a total of 3616 days of use till today.

Every new year companies and organizations distribute diaries to their clients, people gift diaries to their friends. What I see the most of the time, at least here, is they are wasted. Blank pages of the diaries are kept blank. The most of the times those are used to take class notes, used to keep home expenditure log, or other purpose for which it was not actually made. Some write poetry and stories in the diary, and also some write daily schedules, or office appointments in a diary, which I think is a good use. But I have never seen any person whom I know, write diary in a diary.

I have not seen any diary except in movies, and stories. Most of the diaries shown in the movie are ridiculous, and I cannot find any similarities between my one and those. Although it does not have many entries at present when compared to the number of days used, it carries significant value for me. 10 year is not much time, but my diary is something like a video recording of the past. Some times I read my diary like a story book, and sometime I have to look at it to get some information from the history when I need. For example, if I want to get back the days of Class 10 Board examinations, I can go back to those days. I can playback the days in Egypt, and go back into the tourist bus beside El’ Bazar near Giza, where I wrote an entry. Or if someone challenged about some date, I can also check the dates from the diary and get confirmed about it. And also to peek back at the difficult and joyful times.

Generally, people keeps huge interest in others diaries. It’s natural to try peek inside the diary in search of some ‘secret’. People starts to read the entries and expects to get some ‘secret’ as we see in movies. I think diary is not a place to keep any ‘secrets’ if it at all exists. Secrets or certain feelings are kept within. The diary is just the reflection of a certain state of the mind which will trigger that particular feeling by taking you back to that time. Let me describe. If I am very tensed and am in some very bad situation, when I make an entry in the diary, the language and the way of writing may reflect what my state of mind is, and when I re-read it I can get the same feeling of that situation. Similarly happy relaxed moments are captured in the pages. Writing directly about the feelings with poetic language, does not work for me because of my limited ability express things. Therefore my language is very straight, short sentences filled with spelling and grammatical mistakes. As long you cannot take your mind to that state of mind back in time whatever you write you cannot get the feeling.

The diary for me is the almost second me, more precisely it is 1.5 me. It’s another person with whom I can have a chat, with whom I can talk, and the best part he is the ideal person with whom I can communicate whatever, and I do not have to express to make him interpret and understand what I want to say the way I wanted to say. I can make him understand whatever I want. Sharing the good moments with that person inside the book makes the moments even better, and talking about the bad moments, helps calming down and get into control of things.

The media of writing diary is very important for me. Writing diaries in computer by typing in, is I think is a very bad idea. I never do this, and I will probably never write diaries in the computer. Choice of the diary is very important. I like hard bound medium-sized diaries with pages with lots of writing space. If the hard bound cover has a soft rexin or leather cover then its perfect for me.

Now the question, what I write in my diary. My diary does not have any real value to other people, and is not a material to be published as an autobiography when I die (who will buy it? me?). It has no literature value, and simply has descriptions of events what happens when, and what I did, or some friend of mine did etc. Some times some entry contains some serious discussions, or describes a certain complex state of my mind. I have a certain writing pattern and some constraints to include events, and names of persons while writing. This highlights the important events in the history and filters out the unnecessary smaller parts.
A person cannot lie to himself/herself . So it is expected that all the information written in the diary are true. Yes I follow this, and I do not need to lie in my life too. Although if I do not want to lie I do not write any kind of information on that subject. Because this is not some text written to be read by someone else, only the indication of a certain topic is enough to make myself understand what I wanted to say at that time.

I write the date in dd,mm,yy, month and the day of the week in words, and start writing the entry. Length of the entry is not limited. A signature ends the entry. One thing I really feel is very bad about my diary is my handwriting. It is different in different dates, and most of them are unreadable. I have an interesting part in my diary. I have special diary codes, which cannot to read by someone else. Although a forensic investigation will break the code. I have created the first diary secret code at the first day of my diary entry. As time passed I have developed much more difficult codes, and which I still remember and make use of. But the usage of diary codes have come down these days. The code is also is good to keep the passwords written, and the account recovery questions in the diary, although I don’t do it.

I do not keep up any schedule for writing diaries. Whenever I have mood of writing I write, when I feel I should write and have a chat with the person inside that book. Sometimes there are long pause between two entries, and which I do not like, because a lot of information are lost in that period.

Along with the diaries I have tickets, restaurant bills, movie tickets from the past kept between the diary pages. For example we went to see the Michael Jackson’s “This is It” in the movie hall, and I have the ticket of that movie in my latest diary. So when I read that particular entry I can also view the ticket, or the associated document to that entry. The bad part of this thing is that a lot of papers were lost from the diary. But I keep inserting the interesting stuffs inside the diary. Whatever it be, even a paper with scribbling can go inside the diary, because that paper with the scribbling on it describes a small corner of time in my life, and which I can have a look at a later time and smile if I could remember the time.

Another part of the diary, and which is very important to me is the phone number page. I copy the old list along with new numbers in my new diary. New names are appended when transferring to a new diary. These two phone number pages are of immense use, although I use a mobile phone. I need to check these pages when I need to phone any of my friend whose number I cannot remember. And oh, I do not use a mobile phone (till now), so I cannot press the up button twice (or n times) and press the small green button.

The best book to learn from is my diary. From it I can learn your previous mistakes. For example lets say 3 years back if you did something or thought something which you though it was right at that time, after three years you can have a look at that state of mind and you might come to a conclusion that what you thought back at that time was not correct. The reverse is also possible. Looking at the history helps recover from the errors which I did before, and correct it. And if I fail, or struggle to correct them at least I am aware of them.

The diary is a place of greatest entertainment. When I open the first page of the first diary it’s like starting a movie. Read the entries and imagine the images stored in your mind and you will go back to time, and clearly see what was going on at that time. The best part is you can fast forward or rewind or even pause, make the time slow whatever you want while visualising, just like a media player.

In my opinion a handful of still pictures would help the diary enhance. With a still photo you can go back to that place in your mind and rerun that patch of time however you want. I keep the stills and videos in my computer in a properly organized manner, therefore if not in the diary, it’s in the disk.

I would like keeping up writing diaries trying to make the writing better which enhance and polish the mirror of time and I would also hope that I do not lose any of them. I also want to see how it feels when I read the first or second diary after a long time in the future.

For the readers, do you write a diary? Or ever wrote a diary in the past? If yes I can say that you are enjoying it. I would also ask them to share their experiences writing diaries. and those who does not write diary, I would ask them to at least try once, it might feel bad at the first, and you may write crap stuff, but believe me, as time passes it would get better and you would understand th value of the diary yourself.

Note: I am reposting this, after some editing. This was originally posted in my other blog.